My girlfriend's sister is in a bad way and I'm scared.

So, to cut a looong story short, My partner's sister started getting memory problems in November, so she went for a MRI, They discovered a tumour. She lied to my partner and said it was treatable but it wasn't. And they were to start treatment. On Monday, She collapsed and is now seemingly in a coma. They said "its time" but her blood pressure is rising. They said they are shocked that she's still hanging on. This morning, My girlfriend said "We're gonna take you home" and she squeezed her hand. She then got her hopes up, I don't know what to do for the best. Any advice on how long she could have left? Will she come out of this coma, Or is it just a matter of time?

  • Hello and thanks for posting, 

    I am sorry to learn about your partner's sister and can understand this is a stressful time for everyone. 

    I'm afraid I can't tell you what is likely to happen to her, the type of brain tumour and it's location would most probably have some bearing on this, but it does sound like the medical/nursing staff looking after your partner's sister aren't expecting her to survive or come around from this coma. So it could well be just a matter of time. The best source of information about this will be the doctors and nurses involved in your partner's sister's care so do try and talk to them when you have the opportunity and encourage your partner to be guided by what they say. 

    Most people in situations like this feel helpless and seeing someone this unwell is very upsetting. With your partner, I think all you can do is try to be as supportive as you can be and listen. You don't have to have any 'answers' , just  'being there' can mean a lot. 

    If you want to talk about anything please feel free to call us. We are here weekdays (not BHs)  from 9-5, and our Freephone number is 0808 800 4040. 

    Wishing you the best,

    Julia

  • Thank you for replying. She's in The States currently. And its just really affecting my mental health. I lost my mum to cancer in 2019, So its all bringing back memories, As well as knowing I can't be there in person. I will try to contact her doctors and see. As well as support my other half. Thank you again for replying.