Hello and thank you for posting  

This must have come as a big shock and I can imagine that all you can think about is what is going to happen in the future.

It's very difficult not to think like this, but no one actually can say what lies ahead or when things may start changing. It's good that the surgeon said the operation went well as that means that hopefully he will be able to recover from his surgery without complications.

Doctors may have written this as they look at the grade and stage of a cancer after surgery, which on paper may look advanced in your husband's case. However, everyone is very different in their response to treatment like surgery and also in the way their bodies respond to cancer. So they can't take into account every individual response and cannot say for definite when things may start to decline - this may still be some way in the future.

Try if you can to take each day as it comes and think of the things that you both can do, as sitting waiting for something to change is very hard and most probably not very helpful to either of you, though I appreciate this is easy for me to say. At night, if things look bleak, do call the Samaritans here or during the day, there is also our helpline and Maggies (more information here   )

Please do give us a ring if you would like to talk about this - Freephone 0808 800 4040 and the lines are open from 9am till 5pm Monday to Friday.

All the very best to you and your husband

Wanda