Hi, FlyingCatfish,

You left a comment in my thread, but I wanted to reply to you here to make sure you saw it. :)

I'm so sorry you're going through this, and I completely understand how you're feeling. I was also terrified that I could get a late-stage melanoma diagnosis and envisioned leaving my family behind. A couple of times after reading discouraging info on Google, the room literally started spinning on me and I started to have panic attacks.  

I cannot promise you that you won't get a melanoma diagnosis, but I can tell you that, from what you've written, it's unlikely. In my case, my GP and my dermatologist were obviously concerned about the appearance of my mole and thought that it looked very dodgy. After viewing my mole under a dermascope, my dermatologist even noted some blood vessel and colour features that, according to medical journals on Google, were particurlaly indicative of melanoma. So I just KNEW I had cancer. To me, it was just a question of how bad it was. 

But as you read in my thread, it wasn't cancer. It was a dysplastic mole that could have turned into cancer and, therefore, needed to go, but it wasn't cancer. 

My point is that, even if a mole looks dodgy, like mine did, it's not necessarily cancer. And it sounds like yours didn't look nearly as concerning to your doctors as mine did, so your chances of getting the all clear are even better. 

And if you do get a melanoma diagnosis, the chances are it will be early and you'll be just fine. If it's a bit later stage, there are lots of wonderful new treatments available, so you still have a great chance of being just fine. 

I don't know if you've ever tried meditation, but I found it really helped me calm down while waiting for my excision surgery and biopsy results. There are several great meditation apps like Calm, Headspace and Insight Timer (which is free) if you'd like to give it a try. 

Stay off of Google, breathe, and try to keep busy with things you enjoy. When your mind starts to wander into anxious territory, gently push it back to the present moment, even if it's chopping vegetables for dinner, and focus on that instead. You're going to get through this. 

All my best to you.

Hi Amy.

Thank you for replying to my thread. It's nice to hear from you. 

Im glad you got the all clear. Im hoping mine are dysplastic moles went and got my stiches out today and was hoping the results would be there. But they weren't! So more days if worrying for me!

Haven't tried any meditation. But to be fair my head has been all over the place. I pretty much convinced myself it's Stage 3 Melanoma!!! There are times at night I just cry and don't want to chat to anyone. 

It's definitely made me changed my behaviour in the sun tho. And I use sun cream regularly now tooo. 

Hope you are well,and happier with your diagnosis. X

Hey! 
Thought I'd pop on to see if you've received your results yet? I'm 3 and half weeks removal and still not heard anything.

Hey! 
Thought I'd pop on to see if you've received your results yet? I'm 3 and half weeks removal and still not heard anything.

Hey thanks for reading my thread. I was actually going to update my post today. I called up the clinic today as the anxiety was Killing me,and turns out all 3 moles were benign! I was told will be getting a letter in the post.

So you at 3 1/2 weeks,they do say no news is good news! Hope you get your results soon,did they say how long it could take?

It does go to show what Anxiety and stress can do! But i have definitely learnt alot from this,and also implementing safer practices being in the sun and showing my daughter the importance of Sun cream. I found this forum very supportive too, so thank you all. 

The relief your feeling must be huge. Completely agree about the wake up call it gives about using suncream and being safe in the sun.

So pleased for you