Thank you mean a lot 

Hi there ...

Sorry I've not been on lately as lots of family health stuff going on ... and two chest infections took their toll .. but I see you've had great advice and a shoulder to lean on, with jolomine and Marlyn ...they are both amazing ...

I agree with jolomine, gentle honesty all round .. the older one will feel less anxious being kept in the loop .. and little ones just the basics ... but how you are when chatting to them will really help .. if you look strong, weather you feel it or not, they will pick up on that ... and whatever feelings they get along the way .. let them all know it's o.k to have tears if they are worried ... it's ok to get extra hugs ... and then you'll get through this together ... 

My granddaughter asked me before my masectomy if I was going to die ...she was 5 ... I told her the Drs were going to try to make it better.... yes I looked strong to her and my young nieces ... but I had days I wanted to cuss and cry .. and I've learned if I can let my feelings out, l can get back up and take on the next day ... and I give myself permission to feel anything ... just not to dwell on it ... think it, process it ..

move on ... so even your one year old can pick up feelings and emotions... so if your down and he / she gets a bit upset just go with it ... my heart goes out to you, it's hard enough for us older ones ... it must be double for you ... but you'll always get a shoulder to lean on here .. or we can answer most questions ..sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie