Just been diagnosed with grade 2 breast cancer

Hi 

I’ve literally just been diagnosed with grade 2 breast cancer. 

So I did the 2ww for breast clinic then the 2ww for biopsy results now it’s confirmed I have to wait, for the mri before they decide which way my treatment will be.

the consultant said I would have chemo, radio, surgery and hormone treatment but they won’t know which order until after.

Im still in shock at the moment. I’m not really sure how I feel about it as I’m more worried about how the children and husband feel. 

I have 4 children twin girls of 13 and two boys of 5 and 3. I have no idea how to tell my boys. 

Hx 

  • Will feel so much better once you have a plan of action. It is so hard to comprehend but I feel so much calmer now than when I was first diagnosed. My only worry is telling my kids sometime before Thursday but as long as I can help them understand their mum is on the road to treatment and I will give them as much support as possible even when I’m having a bad day then again I will feel that bit more positivity. Either way though it will break my heart to tell them.

    On a positive side we will get there and with each other’s support on this group it will be that bit easier ️ Stay strong Xx 

  • My bc nurse gave me a book called mummy’s lump. I haven’t read it to the boys yet but I will. 

    How are you feeling about the chemo? How many sessions have you got to have? 

    Hx

  • My nurse gave me that book for my little girl and a comic strip one for the older boys. They will be really helpful when the time comes. Think it’s the actual C word and the hair loss that will worry them most. 

    Feeling nervous about chemo, its the unknown isn’t it I think? Hoping when Thursdays done I will feel bit better because I know what to expect if that makes sense. Obviously won’t feel better with the nausea and sickness though I have to have 6 cycles. One every 3 week so by the discussion with oncologist just as I start to improve I have another dose. Just got to remember it needs to be done to beat it but roll on December! Julie xx  

     

  • Hope you can try and put it aside for a day and try to enjoy your anniversary xx

  • Once it sinks in and you feel you can except it, the tears will be less, let your husband, family and friends help too, even if it's just taking you out for tea. I know how you feel, I was actually told I had cancer on my birthday, then it was my anniversary on 26th and I had an ontology appointment to discuss chemo in two weeks, it does seem to take over your life but still try and enjoy life between, make your anniversary special, plan to do something nice between treatments and be kind to yourself, stay strong, we will come out the other side together.

    Kriss7 x x

  • Hi guys 

    we went out for dinner yesterday as a family for our anniversary. It was nice. There was a few wobbly moments but we had good day.

    now I need to conquer this whole sleeping lark. Just doesn’t come at the minute.

    how are all you this morning? 

    Hxx

  • Morning. Glad you managed to get out for tea and try to take your mind of things to a point. Definitely helps to keep occupied. 

    Sleep still an issue for me, it’s only when Im extremely tired I doze off and sleep for hours but most nights it’s early morning/through the night tv with a hot chocolate. Feel like judge Rinder is my best friend and I’m a pro at the old repeats of Who wants to be a millionaire! That’s the time when my mind works overtime most though! 

    I’m just waiting for half 9, I have got my pre chemo appointment to talk me through about what happens Thursday I guess bit nervous but will hopefully know more then.

    Julie x

  • Good luck for the appointment, let me know how you get on. 

    The lack of sleep isn’t great at work. Luckily I’m only in for an hour this morning to do the banking as need to get back for the washing machine repair man.

    hxx

     

     

  • Hi Mrsh7

    That's a good idea about Facebook. A lot of people don’t know what to say to you.

    Take care

    A x

  • Hiya, so pre chemo was very informative. All booked in for Thursday now at 9.30 bit shocked to find out that the hair can begin to fall out straight away after the first cycle so on with sorting a wig and some headscarves but I’m not one to wear things on my head so may end up just embracing the shaved head. We shall see. Will keep in touch when I can depending as to when my good days are. Thank you for the support ️ Julie x