Oh LD, remember everyone's cancer is dfferent. We did not have the positive pro-surgery noises your Dad has. I think sometimes they can remove lymph nodes but it very much depends on the individual.

The waiting is definitely the worst part. From personal experience I advise you to stay off the internet apart from ths site or Macmillan as there is a lot of out of date rubbish out there. All I can suggest is you try to keep busy and be kind to yourself but I know its very hard. If you can work out what works for you in terms of taking your mind off it, you might get a bit of relief but I know exactly what you mean about your mind running wild. The nurse told me to take one day a a time but its not something I find easy. 

What is good is that your Dad is well.

I hope he gets sorted with his tests and a treatment plan soon. x

Dad has now had his lung function tests and PET scan yesyterday (he missed a call and couldnt get hold of them so I kept calling and calling them and managed to book it 8pm for the next morning)

He asked the lung function person if he was fit and she said she couldnt say but put her thumbs up. He also saw the nurse at the GP who referred him for the chest xray and she said they had received the letter and it sounded postitive.

I am praying that the PET scan will give some positive news for him! 

Hope the rest of you are ok x

Sounds positive, LD. Hope the news is good and that you get it quickly.

I will be thinking of you and your Dad. xx

Sadly after putting my last comment on here, 3 months my dad passed away. It hit him so so bad. He could not have radiotherapy and they gave one chemo before Xmas and sadly passed January 2019. We are in total shock. We was only just coming to terms with illness then he got put into a hospice just after Xmas. We was with him every single day for 3 months. We have only just had his funeral last week as we took to coroner as something was mentioned at the beginning about asbestosis. And then it didn’t get mentioned again. My dad gave up smoking 55 years ago so it seemed so unreal that day before we got told he only had a little cough and was on a roof working and 3 months later we lost him. We are all devastated. I am signed off work and I’ve been the strong one through our andsince his funeral last week, I have been signed off work. 

Everyone at the hospital also was so shocked and how he went downhill so quickly and that usually people get little better once had chemo and they have never seen it go so quickly . This to me means something else but of been the problem. I miss him so much and feel like I can’t get on with my day at the mo  

I am so devastated to hear this news, so sorry my love. Such a cruel disease to take ourloved ones in this way.

You've been through the mental equivalent of a massive car crash, and just like a physical smash up, you will need time to get over this. You may feel anger, sadness and disbelief-sometimes all at once!Just be really kind to yourself and do whatever feels best. Some people like to be busy, some people struggle to face the day and get out of bed. Years ago I lost someone and found there were only 2 things that made me feel a little better. One was walking on the beach and one was hot baths and sleep. I couldnt watch TV or read and I didnt want to see anyone.

But you will find your own methods of dealing with it, and slowly you'll come back to life.

I promise.

Meanwhile, we're always here if you need to talk.

Lots of love

xxx