Coming to terms with cancer

We have just found out my mum has cancer its spread all over i just cant take in this information. My mum cant be made better its killing me  . I dont know what to do or say  . I feel selfish but i cant get my head around my mum being so ill . Any advice would be very much appreciated . 

  • Thanks - I'm doing OK :-) 

  • Thats good i hope you really are okay thsnks2 again for today.

  • Awww. Didnt know it was your mums birthday on Wednesday ️ Would you give her an extra hug from me please?Three years ago I lost 2 sisters and a brother within 6 months and I keep going back to our childhood days when we were all together.So much pain but yet there was also so very very much love ️ ️ ️You'll never be alone,we're all here for you xxx And believe me,you couldnt upset your mum,you love each other too much for that.Love,Anne xxxxxx

  • Im sorry to hear that my mum is the youngest of 11 and we lost my 3 aunties all to breast cancer within a year and 4 of her brothers all to cancer and both my grandparents it is going though our family life like wildfire . Iv been protected from reality of it tilll now so i need to protect my chelsea as much as possible i just don't know how and my mum is trying the chemotherapy and radiotherapy to see Chelsea graduate but i know deep down time isnt on our side i would donate 10 years od my own life to my beautiful mum if i could . Also im really worried because in January i was so poorly they couldnt risk putting me on a life support my poor mum.and Chelsea sat by myside in itu and was told i wouldn't make it though the night and i feel all the stess off that has made this thing inside her grow so fast with stress over that they have been treating her for a water infection from jan till april when something burst inside she was told it was bladder cancer then in one kidney but its in her pelvis bladder stomach kidneys lungs and chest she has got a kidney drainage system thought her back to drain the the urine and its so sore her skin is raw with the dressings shes had 5 opration and they cant get a stent in to drain the bladder shes list lots of waight and is sleeping  lots and she has told me shes tied fed up and feels down . I take her shopping every Thursday and fir the first time on fri i went round and saw it shes looks so tiny and poorly and its killing im not sure if you can help with any advice on how i could make things a little better foe her like can i get any super foods or any vegetables creams anything i just dont have a clue . I went yesterday and bought her the teddy bear collection bedding and hot water bottle from Dunelm mill i just dont know where to start . Im sorry to ask you all this but i feel so at ease talking to you thanks a million xxxxxxxx 

  • Talk anytime day or night. Sent you a wee message. Love, Anne xxxxxxxx

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    Hi guys thanks to your support mw and my mum had a lovely day and spoke about lots i was worried about you guys gave my strength to do that xxxx

  • Whst a lovely birthday for your mum spending the day with you ️So glad you both enjoyed it x Love,Anne xxx

  • Love  this lady with all my heart xxxxx