Its so scary isn't it. I keep thinking the worst and have cried so much!! I know that I need to shake myself out of this and be positive and strong for mum. My mum is still in shock but is dealing with it so well at the moment. The not knowing is so hard and I really want the next two weeks to pass so that we know what we are dealing with. 

That's so good to hear you say that you have looked into it and that most types are curable. It's all so new and scary to us. Im sorry to hear your mum is in bits. She is probably still in shock. You just being there for your mum will help so much. I really know what you mean though, we just want to help and make them better but don't know  where to begin.  X

Hi there,

I agree that the waiting really is the most difficult thing to deal with. I first went along mid January expecting a mamogram and ultrasound on one side and left the hopsital three hours later having had those plus biopsies taken on both sides. It was such a shock that I didn't even think to ask any questions and all they said was that I would be told two weeks later.

Two weeks after getting a diagnosis from the consultant I had an MRI and again it was a two week wait for the results of that and then another wait to get a confirmed operation date so unfortunately the time tearing your hair really does not stop.

I had surgery (bilateral WLE & SNB) almost three weeks ago and went back to work this week. Will be starting radiotherapy in a few weeks time but don't know when yet (more waiting!). I cannot pretend any of it is easy but, as you have said, most breast cancers are very treatable and you do get there eventually....

Knowing if and what the cancer is, and having a planned course of treatment,does make things a little easier to cope with so keep going for the next couple of weeks and all the very best to you and your Mum xx

yep it sure is scarey, the thought of loseing my mum brakes my heart. what are the the syptoms that your mum as if you dont mind me asking? the best thing for you and your mum is to try an remain possitive i know its hard but its the only thing we can do. we can do this and support each other through what ever happens im glad i found you your going through exactly the same as me xxx

hi, im so sorry to hear you also have cancer. thankyou for your reply it really helps to hear this. we only found out yesterday and already feels like too long waiting is cruel and it gives u way too much time to think the worst. but after comeing on here and doing lots of reseacrh i do feel alot more confidant that my mums going to be ok.i hope your treatment goes well and you make a full recovery take care xxx

i know exactly how you feel. You are right, we need to be strong, positive and be there for our mums. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's a comfort knowing that you know exactly how I feel. We will get through this. Thinking of you and here if you need to chat. Xxx

Hi love, just wanted to say I know how terrifying it is for you, I sadly lost my mum to Breast cancer 12 years ago but she hid it from us for years and gave herself no chance so please dont feel that your mum can't get through this as she can, I myself have been recently diagnosed in the past two weeks with a very early stage Breast cancer which I've been assured can be dealt with and I will be fine, things have moved on an awful lot over the years and early diagnosis is the key, I was never going to do to my children what my mum did to us  so feel very confident I will be fine as Im sure your mum will be, all the waiting is the worst bit and I'm waiting on lumoectomy results next week although I have had a biopsy previously so they are pretty certain what I'm dealing with, the word strikes you with terror and I totally understand that, please feel free to message me anytime you like my love, I've been in your shoes and now going through it myself I hope I can give you some support , love jo xx

same to you hun, thankyou so much for getting intouch i really feel we can support each other and help our mums get through this xxx

hi jo, im so sorry to hear about your mum i cant imagine how you coped with loseing her.

 its really good and brave that u didnt follow in yr mums foot steps and you learned from her mistake. the word cancer is scarey on its own and cant imagine how my mum feels or you for that matter. my nana also had breast cancer and she totally recovered and it never came back and after it was all done she wuldnt evan say the word cancer she was terrified of it.

now im thinking maybe it could be genetic? do you know anything about it?

thankyou for takeing the time to reply xxx

Hi kelliemarie 

It was all a dreadful shock when it happened to mum as the dreaded c word had never touched our family before and being one of three daughters we asked about a genetic link but we're told she didn't have it although now I've been diagnosed both my sisters are being reffered for tests, we have a very large family and mainly females but  no one else has been affected including my grand mother and my mums two sisters,it has sent my family in to production mode though and they are all determined to investigate it further which can only be a good thing,mine was actually found by sheer fluke whilst I was having another lump checked out and biopsied which turned out to be totally clear but by some chance he picked up some cells on the outside edge of it and found some Cancer lurking, I have to feel fortunate it's been found so early although the shock was horrendous, much love to you and please feel free to get back to me any time, love Jo xx