Confirmed - grade 2 invasive ductal carsenoma

Hi, got the diagnosis on Friday. Positive oestrogen 8 and progesterone 5. Not negative for her2, I think it says 2+ but consultants's writing not great!  another wait for that result to find out if chemotherapy required.  

Gutted to be coming off the hrt patches and having my coil removed, not had a period for like 15 years, my poor partner having to cope with the cancer diagnosis but then the hot flushed, brain fogged,  hot tempered scot on top of it!  Not going to be an easy ride for either of us.

I did have a bit of a breakdown yesterday, I do like girly time with friends drinking and the odd sociable cigarette,  obviously,  I know cigarettes have to go but taking away the alcohol, I found that hard. I don't drink loads but just that glass sometimes when times are hard or away with friends its a good stress reliever.  I panicked and thought what if I can't do this, what if I'm not strong enough, then it went to...why me, I've had a lot of illness and obstacles in my life and I felt quite sorry for myself. I cried quite a bit, talked it through with my partner and I feel a bit better for showing my weaker side. 

It's hard to know what to do, my daughter is in last few months of degree, she is in a happy place and suffers from anxiety about cancer as two of her aunts, married to my exhusband's brothers have died from it as well as one of their daughters. I know hearing it about me will send her into a spiral. Has anyone not told their children whilst going through treatment?  Advice very gratefully received.  Sorry for rambling. Xx 

  • Hi Case4, at least you can concentrate on the op now. Looks like I'm the first  between you, Pauline and I.  Just need to get the her2 results and I can then  put my big girl pants on and get this sorted x enjoy the rest of your weekend x

  • Hi Ladies

    Looks like I'm joining you all as I too have surgery booked now for the end of March

    I was diagnosed with Invasive Ductal Carcinoma G2 Her2- and have been told if the results don't change it will be a short course of radiotherapy and hormone treatment following the Lumpectomy and Sentinel Biopsy  

    I think the lovely people on this forum has kept me sane, especially during the night when my mind goes into overdrive and I'm awake surfing, determined not to search Dr Google! 

    Thank you and take care ️ 

    Sam x

  • Had wide excision lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy on 1st March. Awaiting results! The waiting is the hardest part. 
    My daughters are so caring but my husband not really accepting of diagnoses.

  • Julie 

    hope you are feeling ok after the operation it really is straightforward isn't it , good luck for results it's crazy waiting on results it's the worst part it will soon be over and you be back to normal life 

    love Lara ️

  • Thanks Badger, hope you don't have to wait too much longer for those final results. I have managed to have a good weekend thanks even forgetting about my diagnosis sometimes - wow!!

  • Hi Sam, that's great that your treatment plan is all in place and will hopefully be straightforward. Not long to go anyway and then we can get some decent sleep!

  • Hi Julie, hope you are recovering well and not too sore. I've got my arm exercise sheet pinned on the wall in preparation!

  • Hi Sam, it's crazy isn't it, just over a month ago cancer was not in my mind, all that I was thinking was Scotland playing well in the six nations rugby and where we should watch the next game! 

    Now cancer is dominating my thoughts. I'm so grateful for knowing there are people going through the same as me, I don't feel alone. This forum has been awesome and the moderators and people like lara and jolamine who give up their time to help us through those first few weeks are amazing.

    I try to put my phone at the other end of the bedroom when I go to bed. At the beginning I was searching for hours for any kind of cancer information relating to what I'm going through,  I'd barely sleep I was like a human sponge, I'd scare myself silly. I am sleeping better now sometimes even in the late afternoon I have a nap. I think this waiting does take a toll on me. 

    Anyway I hope you are having a good weekend take care x

     

  • Hi Julie Alison, how is your recovery after op going? You're what, day 4 now? Have you been told how long you can't drive for and could you still go to work if you wanted to? It's the unknowns that get me sometimes, I know I'm a bit of a control freak and it's scary not being. 

    I do hope that you are feeling more like yourself? How old are your daughters? And when you say husband is not accepting of the diagnosis, I'm afraid I don't know what you mean x 

     

    Take care of yourself and don't over do it x 

  • Badger 

    Hope you are ok and get results soon it seems a long time you have been waiting bless you , they told me not to drive for 2 weeks that was the worst thing of it all for me operation is very minor felt like have they really done it it's easy peasy was out shopping day after it's honestly easy , I continue kd to work right through obviously from home took day after operation off as I had mine on a Thursday so took Friday and weekend was back on my desk on Monday , you will fly through it xx