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The good and the bad

Sandra123
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Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Offline in reply to Chriss

    Evening ladies, still no appointment so rang hospital who told me they got to “fit” me in as all the doctor’s results clinc is full and will ring me! I kept calm said ok if I haven’t heard by Monday will ring again! Made me wonder if they had missed me off list! 

    Brighter note my oldest son now arrived so if I am a bit quiet next few days that’s why. Try and be good!! Look forward to hearing about cakes, men serving drinks and of course climbing trees, hope the weekend is good to you all x  xx 

  • Offline in reply to Chriss
    I joined the gym in the "steps to health" program with a trainer who had done work with Guys Cancer centre. It helped with fatigue a little. I unfortunately am one of those who is still suffering with it. Every person is different and every cancer is as unique as our DNA. Try things to see if they help. My saviour was Breast Cancer Haven - they really got it. And this forum really helped. My bcn is really good as well. Hope you all get thru the physical and emotional rollercoaster with flying colors. Now about that toy boy.......
  • Offline in reply to Jbains

    Yep, now where can we find one, suggestions please?!

  • Offline in reply to rileyroo

    Hay rilleyroo. ..In the O A P retirement home for ex firemen ... they come with a free Zimmer frame  ; ))  x

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123
    Hello again and thanks for your reply. You are a bit further down the coast than me. Haven't been to Northumberlandia but have been to Morpeth a lot and unfortunately to NSHEC Cramlington a few times with hubby. I gather from your posts that you had your op and treatment at NCCC Freeman which was where we had our 4 short RT sessions to try and keep the beast at bay and make things a bit more bearable for hubby. We knew we only had a few months so had to start making wills and sorting practical things and I continued working for a while until I could no longer leave him alone. I cared for him at home, which was what he wanted but by God it was hard watching him declining and just getting weaker. He was so brave, spending hours choking on blood and then vomiting and him still trying to eat as the oncologist had told us to try and get as many calories in as possible. It was just horrendous watching a strapping, hard working man being taken bit by bit to this b****y awful disease. When he finally closed his eyes in July 2016 aged 61 and barely 6 months after diagnosis it was a relief but by God it has left a big empty hole. I hope you ladies carry on with your postings as I just love to read about the support, advice and comfort you give each other and all the laughs along the way. Mind ,I can't be doing with the odd one or two malingerers who write so dramatically it is almost believable!!! Will say cheerio for now Sandra and hope you have a good weekend, batteries charged and ready for your babysitting duties again next week. Lynne x PS Alnwick is another
  • Offline in reply to Chriss

    Hello Chrissie and thanks. I have been reading your posts since last year when you climbed on the rollercoaster.

     

    While on your own cancer journey you give so much comfort and support to others. Never put away those boxing gloves.

    Hug for you this time.

     

    Lynne.x

  • Offline in reply to littleone58

    Good morning littleone:-)

    thank u for sharing yr story. Bless, what a sad, harrowing read. However,  what shone through in every one of yr written word is the ability to find those reserves of hidden strength for the ones we love. 

    Your story shows a number of things to me - 

    resilience, the ability to keep going when we are scared, angry, helpless, hopeless and desolate. 

    To walk in another’s shoes, you are our first carer to come on this thread. We, as the ones coming to terms with the toll it takes mentally and physically to have this disease, need reminding how the carer is effected mentally and physically too. Reminding our friends, family and loved ones see and hear everythiing. They are not an audience watching but active participants doing their best in the whole “journey” and may be left alone on life’s stage with the echo of emptiness. 

    I was humbled reading your post lynn. 

    I hope u too have as good a weekend as u can:-)... I’m bsitting tonight.... again:-).  Thought Morpeth was prob a good bet for u to have been to:-). And yes:-).... Alnwick - Anick:-). Love for u t continue to join in with us nd let us know your good and bad or even what u r having for tea;-) 

    take care lass.. nd a heartfelt thank u for sharing ️X

     

  • Offline in reply to Beachbabe

    Yup sounds  a bit off t me. Glad u have chased it up.

    B prepared for a long wait In waiting room when u get there.... tbh it could b a long wait even if u have a planned appt ... 3hrs in waiting room for me t get mine. Eee - I started thinking they r keeping me till last cos it’s bad news nd think it will take much longer than a all ok. No.. no it wasn’t- it was good news they were just really  running 3 hrs behind bless. 

    So.... your son has arrived back home:-) enjoy me dear nd use the down time from everything hospital t do things u fancy not need to. 

    have as good a weekend as u can nd postif u need to or just fancy :-) x

  • Offline in reply to Sandra123

    Good morning Littleone

     You are so brave to share that with us and yes Sandra your right about our family and friends. When I was talking to my mum yesterday she seemed different and after reading your post littleone it dawned on me it is the strain like me of not knowing.( I get my results next week. )I will make sure I give her an extra big hug when I see her later. 

    Sending you a big hug now x 

  • Offline in reply to Cornishpastie

    Ah that’s brill cornishpastie. I always passed by looking at the door but like I said never walked through just ran past t the car home nd away from hosp:-) 

    Erm.... not t bring the tone down or owt but....any eye candy at gym let us know ;-) x

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