The good and the bad

Hi peeps

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. Taking the excellent advice on this website I pretty much started by taking it one day at a time. This does indeed help. 

I thought to share the good and the bad and would love to hear anyone else's should they wish to share.

Today I had both a good and a bad moment. I received 2 letters in the post.

The first was from the hosp confirming my op date (my bad moment) cos my stomach dropped and I had that now familiar feeling of anxiousness take hold for a moment but shook it off cos I know it is needed. 

The good - my 2nd letter - as if... a tax rebate - boom  . Not half put a much needed smile on my face . Reckon a my treat family meal is in order.

Eeee it's the little things ain't it. 

Take care peeps 

Sandra x ️X

 

  • Bad - had another recall to the hospital on Tuesday because of abnormal ECG. Again had to stop taking the pills. Hospital ECG was normal so going back on the pills, I expect this will happen every two weeks. There is so much protocol involved with these wretched tablets but if they save my life so be it.

    Good - the sun is shining and it is a beautiful day.

  • Hey ladies hope you're all doing well.

    Cornish that is really lovely surprise! So happy for you after the difficult time you've been having.

    Dizzle - you're not alone. None of my family gives a damn so I've just totally let go. Don't let it effect you - I know it's hard but we all reach a point where all we concentrate on is those who love us and ourselves. You and baby are what's important so if your family can't see that then in afraid - their loss. Like you I tried with mine and was analysing what have I done wrong, etc. But it's not going to change the situation so why stress myself? I've just stopped giving as much of a damn as I used to. I'm here, I'm alive and will make so sure I enjoy the rest of my time here on earth. I don't want negativity so have just cut those out of my life- including my sister's. You're going to have your own little family and the thought process should not go beyond that. Sorry for essay but caring too much just ruins the health. So chuffed for you all is well with baby. Just take it easy.

    Enjoy your day ladies.

  • Well Cornish

    What a fabulous and thoughtful surprise. I doubt my two kids will even remember it’s mothers day. Lol. But no matter they make it up a 1000 fold in other ways. 

    Sundial

  • Can I have your autograph... lol ... wow COURNISH would have loved to have seen your face .... couldn't happen to a nicer person ... your one of those angels sent here to make a difference ...

    Fingers crossed for Lee ... he couldn't be in better hands

    Now the icing on the cake ... apart from your wonderful new grandson.... is to get good results from mamorgrams. . Big vertual hug ... Chrissie xx

  • Hi jbains ...

    Couldn't agree more .. we've all been through too much to worry bout those who have a problem ... the good thing about cancer is we sure find out those who don't really matter in our lives ... 

    That old saying .. change what you can change (we've all tried)   accept what you can't change ... and the wisdom to know the difference ... for everyone I've lost in my life, there's 10 on here to replace them ... wer a vertual family ... one that really cares and will be here no mater what .. 

    And Dizzle .... that new baby that's half way here ... well wer all part of his little new family ... him and his amazing mum will find lots of love on here ...  and they won't get to know that wonderfull new life ... so it's deff their loss ... 

    Big hug to all this big growing vertual family sandra123 is creating every day ...

  • Well where do I start:-

    beach..... you smile lass and stride out there on yr walks full of confidence. You are well... you are strong, you are you and we love you for it ️

    Cornish.... how utterly fabulous... how great is your family ️ So so so well deserved lass. Hold em close and embrace the love they have for you :-)

    dizzel... fab news on the lil ones health you are doing so great ... well proud of you. Family are those who are close and have our backs no matter what... they do not have to b related to fall into this group. Everything and everyone else who rain down the negative...drop kick em outta yr life... you don’t need them ️ I am in absolute awe of how strong you are ... you show em girl.

    dragonfly.... bless up nd down then up nd down then once more cos life can - seems to b the rule of thumb for you at min. Deep breaths cos like you say it’s helping you so look it in the eye nd stare it down lass. How are you in your self? 

    Sundial... hows the garden room coming along... can’t wait t see it. Sun is shining you need t b basking in it soon :-)

    bad none: got a cold ... sigh

    good:- what a lovely day. Came around corner back home nd my lil tree in front garden is in full bloom... heart lifting :-)

    have as good a day as u can peeps x

     

  • Thank you Sandra, you are amazing and a special thank you for starting this thread and bringing us all together on our different journeys x 

  • Hi Sandra, I am okay. Would like this thing cut out of me but that’s not going to happen at the moment. As Chriss said accept the things you can’t change.

    good - going to London tomorrow to stay with our daughter and husband for the weekend.

  • Bless I totally get that. Think I’ve mentioned before there was a lady having her op the same time as me and she too had been on meds to reduce the size of her lump ( a yr) and I vividly recall her saying she was just glad they were finally taking it out. You will get there lass just hang in there. 

    Ah .... family time- you must be chuffed to be spending some time with them and over Mother’s Day no less.... enjoy every min you deserve some good times :) 

    hope you have lots of good to report on your return ️ X

  • Morning peeps 

    bad :- my blinking cold Is reaching its peek ( snotty nose, cough, aches... sigh. I fell over yesterday - went over on my ankle  ( looked like torvell nd dean at the end of bolero- full length on me side reaching up.... probably for my dignity). 4 people ran to my aid... bless em. Not sure if some of my aches is that or just my cold or both. Other than that I’m champion lol. 

    Good :- sun shining. In conservatory with coffee nd yes.... still knitting lol. End is in sight tho... both lil ones jumpers done, one dolls done so expect to finish other dolls today. Lil ones have asked for hats for dolls too now.  Oh well what else am I doing. 

    Have as good a day as u can peeps x