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Newly diagnosed breast cancer and struggling

Gigi88
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Hi

I'm 31 and recently diagnosed with breast cancer. I have no family history and have a 20 month old son and feel like I'm struggling to cope with the shock of the last week.

I have had an MRI and biopsy which has confirmed it has spread to my lymph nodes so I am currently waiting for a CT scan which is killing me, along with the fact that I might not have anymore babies (I am a midwife so I can't bare to even think of going back to work surrounded by beautiful babies)

I have a rough idea of the plan of care of surgery, 6 rounds of chemo and radio but it still hasn't sunk in that it's happening to me and I feel like history is repeating itself as my dad passed away from prostate cancer 2 years ago.

They have given me the option of a mastectomy or conservative breast surgery providing the CT comes back clear, however I have no idea what is best? Does anybody have any pearls of wisdom to share about surgery or is anybody a similar age and can offer some advice about their experiences of fertility treatment or long term tamoxifen?

 

Georgie x

 

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    Hiya lovely 

    I can't offer you advice on surgery or anything but I'm stage four breast cancer and I hope you don't take any offence with what I'm going to say in 32 and having kids wasn't a bother to me, however since I diagnosed i have been put on zoladex which puts me in menaoajsal state since then seeing my friends children's kids pains me, I never wanted kids but fact I may not able to pains me alot so I do feel. Your pain especially being midwife and with your son.

    The zoladex injection if they are offering you that treatment isn't so bad I had night sweats first month then settled down. 

    Sorry I'm not much help. Xxx

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    Hi Daylightdancer666

    I've just read your other post and was going to get in touch to offer some support. 

    When did you receive your diagnosis? How are you feeling now with all your treatments?

    It's the lack of having any control over decision making in my life anymore that angers me the most. I hope you have plenty of support around you and somebody you can vent your frustrations to, to hopefully alleviate your pain a little bit. I feel like sometimes I don't want to burden my family with how I am feeling as I hate seeing how upset they become so having ladies on here to talk to is nice.

    Sending lots of strength your way and always here (especially in the early hours when sleep evades me) if you ever need a chat 

     

    Xx

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