I lost my husband to kidney cancer in Feb 2018 it had spread to his liver lungs & pancreas he was 50yrs old and was diagnosed in March 2017 he lived for 11mths
Hi Prudence and welcome to the forum although I'm sorry to be greeting you under such sad circumstances and would like to offer you my heartfelt condolences on the passing of your husband to kidney cancer last month.
We have many members here on the forum that have also lost their other halves to cancer and will know what you're going through at the moment. Hopefully some of them will pop by soon to offer their support and share their experiences with you but you can also have a look at the many discussions in the coping with loss section of the forum. If you come across any that resonate with you and would like to chat all you need to do is click on the pink 'reply' button on their post.
I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. Im new here and was just reading some posts, and want to reply but I dont think there are any words for how you must feel. My partner is 50, and we have been together for 20 beautiful months. He has oesophagal cancer, stage 3. Hes in hospital after a big operation, being very brave and we hope, but it's so scary. Sending my thoughts and best wishes to you today.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and offer my sincere sympathy.
You didn’t get very long from his diagnosis and I’m sure that the past 11 months have been especially trying. I have lost both of my parents, many family and close friends to cancer and have been battling with it myself for the past 8 years. It is a cruel disease and is no respecter of creed or colour. Do you have a family or friends who can support you at this difficult time?
I am thinking of you and hope that you can find the strength to get through this sad time.
Hi thank you for your reply yesterday was a particularly hard day as it was my birthday and his birthday is in a few weeks time ️
People keep telling me time is a great healer so I'm hoping that is the case
Sending you healing thoughts and prays
God Bless
Prudence ️ ️
Hi thank you for the reply I'm so sorry to hear of your loss also your own battle sending you healing thoughts ️
Yes I have lots of family and friends who are supporting me during this difficult time although yesterday was a particularly hard day as it was my birthday, my husbands birthday is in a few weeks so that will be a very difficult day too
I also attend a bereavement group at the local hospice every fortnight which is very helpful hoping the saying "time is a great healer" is true
I am glad to hear that you have joined a bereavement group and, am sure that, with time, this will help you to get through this terrible time.It is true that time is a great healer, but unfortunately, it does take time to reach the stage where your days are getting a bit brighter.
I am glad to hear that you have a good batch of family and friends who are supporting you. No matter how helpful they are, you still have to go home alone and, this is never easy. You will have good days and bad, but gradually you will find that the good begin to outweigh the bad. Birthdays and anniversaries are particularly difficult to deal with, especially in the first year.
Try to accept all offers of help or invitations, even though you may not want to. It is only by getting back to normal that you will gradually move on.As i said in my last post, we are aways here to support you.
I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.I lost my husband in Jan to stage 4 lung cancer after 7 weeks of being diagnosed and I’m still in shock I don’t know if I’ll ever recover from it he was and is the love of my life I’m heartbroken with actual pain in my heart I’m just trying to get through each day a day at a time .I can’t say anything to take your pain away but just to say you are not alone and that so many others can identify with your heartache and being on this forum will help you.
