Hi Jack

Sorry to hear the problems.  It is far too soon for your wife to go back to work.  My consultant told me I could not go back until my chemo was finished.  I have been of work since mid January and am due to go back for a couple of mornings from 02 June.

We all find there are things we cn no longer do that we used to do with ease.  Just try and get her to take it slowly and to remember that her body has been pumped full of very strong drugs to kill the cancer and that no-one expects her to do everything she used to.  She may want to, to keep some sort of normality but just get her to understand that it is best if she gets plenty of rest as this will help her recovery.

With regard to the Letting Agent certainly speak to them and let them know what the situation is.  They may not agree to delay the inspection but even if it does go ahead they will know why things might not be up to your usual standard and most are willing to make allowances.

Best wishes.

Gill

Deborah decided against me asking them to cancel. I'll be glad when the second course comes around so she can be settled as to what to expect. Last night her hair 'felt funny'. There was nothing wrong with it - it was just because she'd been wearing her wig a lot, but she obviously believes that whatever side effects are coming are waiting around every corner for her - once this course is done and dusted I think she will settle down when she knows what to expect for her three weeks and, although she may or may not feel any better or worse, at least she won't be waiting for some demon to leap out of the dark on her...

Changed her mind... I postponed it for ten days, just before second round of chemo as I figure she'll be feeling better again just before she has to go and get knocked down once more. I didn't want strangers in the house anyway when her immune system is starting to dive...

Hi Jack

I know after my first chemo I kept expecting to suddenly feel awful  or for something horrible to happen.  It never did but it is a difficult feeling to get over because so many people do struggle with chemo and jsut do not know what to expect from the first treatment.  Hopefully as you say she will have a better idea of what to expect once she has had her second treatment.

I think it is a wise move to postpone the inspection by the letting agents.  I was certainly told the fewer people I came into contact with the better and that any contact would be best in the week just before the next chemo as my immune system would be stronger then.

You are curently doing a wonderful job of supporting your wife and I am sure she appreciates it.

Bets wishes.

Gill

Thanks Gill.

She just asked me to look inside her mouth as she can feel a 'furry' patch with her tongue. When I looked, there is a sizeable area inside her gum that has gone a bit pale - looks like your hand when you're in the bath too long... any ideas? No pain or itrritation she says, just feels furry...

Not wanting to interfere Jack but it might be thrush.

If it is she will need oral nystatin prescription or similar.

Best wishes

Annabel.

Hi Jack

I think Annabel is probably right.  I would suggest a visit to the GP to get this sorted.

Gill

Thanks for that guys. Her first suspicion was oral thrush but doc said no and that it was normal. It did slightly unnerve her that the doc was getting her info from same internet sites that Deb was...

Hi Jack

I think that would worry me to!  Migth be wise to mention this next time she has a treatment as they may have something they can give her whicc might help.

Gill

She has to go to hospital day before her next treatment so she will probably ask then. She hasn't mentioned it again. She gave her head a wee scratch last night and suddenly said it was really sore. We wondered if it was the start of the hair loss thing - guess we'll find out soon enough.

She has gone back to work today. I don't think it is the best idea as her immune system is still on the floor, but she is getting bored at home by herself. I just hope she'll be okay