Hi there

I am in a similar situation.

I am 19 weeks pregnant and my female partner was diagnosed with a uterine sarcoma the same day i found out i was pregnant. We had been trying to get pregnant between us for 7 years and after suffering 3 miscarriages it it totally surreal that this time it has worked.

The baby is a miracle but we have been told her cancer has returned aggressively and she is currently going through chemo (which itself is pretty traumatic) and in 3 weeks we will find out if it is shrinking the tumours. If it is not then we are very scared of the prognosis.

I totally feel your fear of being pregnant and trying to deal with an unwell partner and an uncertain future.

Big hugs x

My Husband has been diagnosed with agressive cancer of the protrate.  We have been going through so many lengthy processes but nothing seems to be happening.  He is now going through a full body scan to see if it has spread to any other areas.  I feel so in the dark about it all as he is in pain and I don't know how to help him.  I have to keep strong for him as he thinks everything is going to be fine.  He has always been an an active man and I can see him weakening.  It breaks my heart.  What should I do because I don't want him to see me crying (which I do when alone and also at night)  Hope someone can offeer a way I can deal with this,  My family have been very supportive so far but I don't want to worry them as they have families of their own.

Was reading your post and it rang true to me. My husband has just been told he has pancreatic cancer. Not sure how I feel. It's all a bit surreal. Trying to hold it together for my daughter who is doing her final year of high school. My husband is very angry and full of pain and I guess remorse for not seeing the doctor sooner. It is good to read how others are coping. Will try to keep in touch as our Cancer journey  unfolds.

Hi sallybe54

Just wanted to welcome you to the forum though sorry for the reason  you have joined us.  The post you have responded to is a few years old and it may help for you to begin your own thread so that others is similar situations can add their support/welcome. Sometimes mentioning the type of cancer in the title of your post helps other 'readers' to pick up and reply.

When my husband was diagnosed I too found it hard to get my head round and this forum was a great place to visit for support during difficult days.  Hope you find it useful to keep in touch as and when you feel able.  I expect your husband will be facing various appointments to find out how you move forward. All the very best. Jules54

My husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer 5 weeks ago and 1 week after I had a total knee replacement 2 weeks after that he had an operation and had a large area of his bladder scraped we are now waiting for 2 more scans on his chest and lungs the waiting and not having any answers are killing us spend most of the time crying because we don't know what we are waiting to hear can't see a way forward 

Hi Saxo and welcome to the forum which I hope you will find a help during these difficult times.  As you have popped your post on to an older discussion it may help to begin a thread of your own and also mention the type of cancer your husband has in the title.  This sometimes brings more replies from those who have experience of the same illness.

I joined when my husband was diagnosed with Mesothelioma (cancer of the lung linings) and remember well the wondering and waiting for results of various tests which seem to go on for too long when all you want to know is what happens now?  In our case the diagnosis, initial scan/biopsy and then the results took three months but I know it can vary from person to person and even area to area.

Please do come and chat anytime as whilst it does not necessarily stop you worrying I did find it helped to talk things through with others in similar situations. The emotional rollercoaster is pretty difficult and we tried to cope as a family by taking it one day at a time.  Sometimes it is a little easier once you know the results and can begin to look at treatment options.

Wishing  you both all the very best.  Jules54

Hi,

Welcome to the forum though sorry for the reason that brings you here. It is a hard journey you and your husband are on and the forum is a good place to be able to chat and talk to others who have  been  or are going through similar times.  It may help if you begin your own thread (mentioning the type of cancer your husband has) so that other 'readers' pick up on it and may be able to offer support to you during this difficult time.  47 is so very young to be facing this terminal diagnosis (my husband had just turned 60 at diagnosis though he had a different cancer -Mesothelioma.

Sadly for some both the illness and medication changes the personality of the one we love and it is very hard to take everything on board.  Perhaps a word with your own GP could help as  you should not have to cope alone. I found good support here to let out my feelings but also accepted advice from my husband's GP and palliative care team.

Be kind to yourself and take care. Jules