Hi Lonelygirl

I've just come across this thread and I wondered how you are doing? I'm currently in a very similar situation to where you were in 2019. I hope you're ok.

I feel I could have written this post. My mum died in 2013 and I also have very little family. Yes I do have a husband and kids but I was my mother's main carer for a very long time. She was divorced and also didn't have that many close friends which was hard as well. I know the loneliness you are going through. I can't say it leaves but please try and find moments in the day to be happy x

this message is for lonelygirl103  its a long time since you posted but its now 2023 and i have had breast cancer and finished all my treatment but i still feel unwell.

My Beloved Mother passed away march 15 2023 and i feel the worst i have felt in  my life

so i do understand  londelygirl103 and if you ever want to chat just come on here and we can talk .

love to you

susie

Hi Lonelygirl,

I know that this is an old post now, but I just had to respond. I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mum on Christmas Eve, 2019. This is always an unfortunate time to lose a loved one - not that there is ever a good time. It is difficult to cope with all the aniversaries, when you feel so down and everyone else seems to be in celebratory mood.

 I am glad to hear that you have had lots of counselling and that this has helped. Unfortunately, it doesn't make your grief go away. There are many different stages of grief and we all take our own time to come to terms with it.

There are lots of ways to make friends and sometimes we have to make the effort to start the ball rolling. Have you ever thought of helping out in a charity, or joining a special interest group of some sort? Even helping to babysit some of your colleagues' children, would make a start.

There is no need for your life to be so lonely, but it won't happen all by itself. I too was dealt a very tough hand in life and for years fortunes wheels didn't turn in my favour. It was only when I started to nudge that wheel, that things began to change. Despite having lost my own mum to cancer and having had 2 bouts myself, I can now say that I am truly happy in my life. It takes baby steps to start, but they do pick up pace as you get things moving.

Wishing you the best of luck in your future life. Remember, some of the things that your mum has taught you about life and make her proud!

Kindest regards,

Jolamine xx