Hi Flower606,

I am sorry for your loss.

my mother who is 95 was diagnosed last Tuesday with gallbladder cancer which has also spread to her liver.  She hasn't gone jaundice nor does she seem in  pain. 
 

my question is I don't know what to expect, I've been told that she will go downhill quickly but are they talking days, weeks?

I feel I need to prepare my sisters as they think she is ok despite diagnosis.  
 

i would be really grateful if you could tell me what to expect and watch out for?

warm regards

Hi Grace,

A very warm welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear that you find yourself in this unenviable position at present. IS your mother in hospital or at home? Her care team should be able to give you some idea of her prognosis and what to expect, provided that your mother is happy for them to tell you. Even then, this is only a guesstimate, as some people can liver much longer than predicted and others pass sooner.

It is best to liase closely with her care team and, they will normally keep you updated on what to expect. The main signs to look out for are when the person stops eating and then drinking and is sleeping most of the time. In the latter stages, breathing can change too and there may be some confusion.

Please keep in touch with us. We appreciate how difficult it is for you going through this with your mother, as many of us have already experienced this. Remember that we are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx