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So a ct found lung cancer on my mom and a large met to liver. Biopsy is wednesday. She has deteriorated massivly this last week. Extreme exhaustion confusion spaced out and now inconti enet. She wont eat or drink unless u ask her to and she just sits there as if somehwere else. We admitted her to hospital 3 weeks back thinking it was just a uti and dehdration then we were told cancer and now 3 weeks later shes not ok. We have no help yet stil awaiting care to start . No one has visitied and we are lost . Is this her end of days? What should we be doing? What do we need to know? Its me and my 2 brothers and this all new to us and we are scared. Please honesty needed

  • wow looks like our mums couldnt be more a like exact same mum.s brain is like is been switched off cant talk dont understand a thing is lymphoma in the brain large b cell ..like ya self im dieing for answers an more i look mord questions i have we was told 2/3 months been 6 weeks now and deteriroting everyday is the worst pain ive ever experianced in my life seeing someone u love more than anything in this world slowly slipping away im greiving my mum an she not gone yet i dont no wat to say apart from beleve me when i say i feel your pain unless is soneones loved one they can never understand ..godbless u an mum ..

  • Im so sorry 2 hear. Its horrible yes indeed it is and there really is no answer its just a ticking time bomb. 

    I have had to just go along with some of the madness she has spoke about as it is just easier. Now today was a shock she seemed better able to speak a bit more and i really expected her to be completly bed bound. I agree it is grieving and they are not yet gone. My mom is not my mom at all as if she has switched with someone else. 

    I am waiting for her to enter a coma which is what apparently happens with the liver cancer. Im just.waiting take my phone everywhere as i dont know how long she has . 

    Its a horrible battle i feel lonely angry and in a bit of a dream. 

     

  • Thank you i will give them a call. Wish i had all the answers i know i never will. Its all very fast too fast and unfair. 

  • my mum went a week today ..my heart is broken i feel suicidal 

  • My mom died 21 sep 

    Its horrific 

    The pain is too much 

    I dont want to do a thing.

    Suicidial is not good at all i dont feel that way but can understand how someone can feel that way. I have created some kind of safety bubble as im just faking it each day and try to pretend none of it has happend. It is cruel to the person and to those left behind and people really dont understand not unless they have been through it. 

  • Hi Sammie ...

    Bless ya ... now the missing starts .. there's no right or wrong way to grieve .. I lost both my parents in my 30s ... and still miss them 29 years later .. we just have to get through each day .. one day at a time ..

    I believe they watch over us ... I've felt mum loads when my cancer was diagnosed ... little signs when I don't look .. I'm sure she'll be watching ... and I bet she's so proud of you ...

    And you know she's right there tucked up in your heart .. where no one can take away .. you are her, she made you .. so she'll be there seeing what you see, on your journey through life  ...and now there's no more pain for her to suffer ... she's now free from that crule cancer ... 

    Sending you one of my special nanny hugs ... Chrissie

  • The after part is the worst even when they are alive and suffering theres so much to keep busy with then it all stops and hard to carry on and find the strength to be normal in this world like everyone else. I dont know how people do it !!! 

    Im glad i have my daughter or i would just melt away i think. 

    Thank you again sending a hug back to you!! X