Horror stories

Mum has lung cancer in both lungs and 3 brain tumours (as far as we know from the last scan a month ago). Terminal now and they say she has a few weeks left.

As we all do we search and search for info and other people's experiences. I'm so sad for everybody's loss but there has been some really horrific deaths from lung cancer (which is what the drs think will kill mum). 

Mum's currently at home and wants to die here. She doesn't want to go in the hospice at all and I don't really want her to either. But after the stories I've read I dont know if I'll be able to cope with it happening at home. It's just me and mum at home with family coming every so often sound so selfish. I feel awful. I haven't spoken to mum about it because I don't want to upset her.

Mum did say when it's the last days if she is completely out of it and I can't cope then she will go in the hospice. I told er MacMillan nurse about this and she said there would be no point at that time because shell literally be days if not hours away from passing. 

Please can people give me experiences of people who have passed from lung cancer that arent horrific :(

  • Hospice where I am from isn't a place you go but a certain level of care, we have hospice workers that come to the home to help the person transition from being here to where-ever we go when we die.  I don't personally know anyone who has died from lung cancer and/or cancer in the lungs but I myself am facing that death.  I spoke to my doctor extensively about it the other day and the horror comes from when people aren't educated and dont know there are things to make it easier.  I have chosen to have a "dry" death, when it is fianlly my time.  It means that they won't be giving me IV fluids or water.  It sounds cruel but actually as the lungs start to fail the extra water from IV fluid and water pools in the lungs making the person drown.  Going with no fluids the lungs dry out and as the body shuts down creates a euphoria that helps with the passing.  I am only 41 and I don't want to die but if that is my option I want to go as easy as possibe and I don't want to have to go as horror story.  I have spent the last six months really learning about this to help ease my fear!  I don't know if this helps or not but I hope so.  It looks like I can do one more treatment that may give me another year or two and I am going to try it but at least if it doesn't work I will be prepared!

     

  • I am so sorry about what happened with ur mum :cry: