Hello,

I am so sorry for all you are going through... I relate so much as I had hoped to have at least one Xmas with my husband and baby... 

It is hard to lose a mom... What else than constantly remind her she is the best mom ever and that you Will always love her...

The best gift you can give her: Try to be brave for her. Tell her not to fear what is to come so that she can go in peace...

Thanks just come from my mother she ok it so sad my head all over place because we was talking and she told me she can't believe it's happen she also said then it hits here that it is she said she more worried about us all than her self . It did upset me I hate seening my mother go through this it's such cruel disease . Little things what she say it's so upsetting I just don't want to loss here it's so hard :( take care x 

From what I hear you have a wonderful mom.

She is right you know, to be more worried about you - all of  you.  I think my mother said the same thing before she died...there are wonderful moms...

You might want to Record her voice while she reads a few fary tales for your children - for later, for when then Will be older- to have a direct communication from her. To know her voice, the way she read stories.

It doesn't have to be just the story, she can  add her own words, wishes, such as: " that was all for  tonight, love you... ".

Or she could even Tell about her childhood, her own mom...

We did that with my husband for our baby, so she wIll know his voice...

my mother always been there for us she always help you and other people I give example my mother use to work as home help one year we had snow and was really deep and bad out everyone else phoned in to say they wasn't coming in to work due to weather . My mother was only one walked to work because didn't want to leave them down home help is looking after the elderly give them they food  and clean for them etc. My mother always put others first she still doing now . That what hurts She just so wonderful . I only got 1 baby boy me and my partner been together 15 years I always thought I couldn't have any because I got endometriosis I still need ivf because of my age  I'm 39 and my partner 52 . I will do that what you said about recording my mothers voice that all my mother do say to me don't leave the baby forget me like I would I will make sure of that thanks for you tips x 

I've read through all your posts.  Here you are giving words of comfort and look what your going through... You have one strong mother there and she's bought you up right.  Yes no doubt about it you have some difficult times ahead but if you can embrace the time you have with her.  Laugh as much as you can,  I know it's hard. Give her that gift.  When Karen told me 2wks,  she had 2wks I sobbed in her arms then pulled myself together and made sure that 2wks was smiles.  It killed me inside but for her,  she had a lovely 8days not 2wks. Karen told me she got to say goodbye,  some don't,  they leave the house and they are gone.  They never had a chance.. And she was more worried about us than herself too.

We sat in the hospital taking her fingerprints laughing our heads off,  the whole ward thought we were nuts!  We used her fingerprint as a keep sake that has been etched into a piece of silver and engraved on the back with the message and put on a chain she wanted for her daughter and husband. And me (not on the high street.com). I refused to use her middle finger for it.  Even doing this we found laughter.  Inside part of me wanted to curl up in a ball and cry.  Be brave.  If this is your last months with her make them good ones.  Write her stories down on paper  get your pictures,  albums sorted - Karen did those,  kept her mind occupied.  Take care xxxx

Thanks so much 4 u kind words take care x 

My heart goes to you... 

Thank u so much surprising how many people on here are going through seem situation or who have loss someone they love 2 cancer it's so cruel they need find cure and fast how many more it going 2 take 4 something 2 be done thanks again x 

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Hi Gemini

My thoughts are with you and I am sending virtual hugs.  Your post definitely resonates with me as nearly two years ago I faced the knowledge that my husband was likely to be facing his last Christmas.  It was so hard having no control of the following days as me, our children, grandchildren and best friends struggled to make special memories to take forward.  Somehow we all made Christmas memories and on 3 January 2015 we lost the love of our lives.

Being you is what your parents brought you up to be, so take that love into your heart and keep it there as you travel these difficult days.  The forum is here when you need to have that ramble/rant.  Believe me I did it loads (still do when have emotional meltdown). Jules x