mum not having chemo

Hi, my mum was diagnosed with stomach cancer about two weeks ago, we have since found out it has spread to her liver and lungs. The consultant has been unable to steady mums liver function so she will not be undergoing chemotherapy. He also said that she had just weeks left. She had another scan yesterday and the radiologist told us that it has spread to her kidney now. He said it is multiplying quite quickly. Dad seems to think that Mum will be able to come home. I look at her in the hospital bed and I cannot imagine her being strong enough to leave it. Has anyone any experience of advice about what to expect if we can take her home ? Is it safe ? I am scared that it will be a strain on my Dad. I also wonder just how long she will battle on for, it seems inhumane for her to be laid on the bed all day just drugged up.  Thanks for any advice  Jo x

  • dear joey so sorry about your mum, i lost my mum last december to ovarian cancer she only lasted three weeks in hospital did not even make it to the hospice, she was sick every day bringing up that horrible brown stuff and in a lot  of pain, and she could not move of the bed at all, it was driving her mad and kept saying  i want to go had enough, my sisters were called up a few hours after , i visited her to say things had turned for the worst and sadly she passed away a few hours later, mum was already in remission from breast cancer since 2011 for which she had early stage treatment, but it seems cancer always seems to come back no matter what, whats worse about mums  ovarian cancer you do not get any symptoms untill the cancer has advanced, thats why the call it a silent disease, and still they have not found any early detection screening for it yet, they say because symptoms are so vague in the early stages its hard to detect which i find rather strange, thats like saying sorry but there is nothing  we can do, i lost my dad at fourty seven years due to a unexpected heart attack, so now i am parentless and eight months on since mum died it still feels raw, but at the same time at least she is not in pain anymore, hope you can pull through like i have to. tkae care oggi