We have just been told that my dad has advanced lung cancer and there is nothing that they can do!
We are so schocked and scared.
Would just like some advice and the best way to keep him as comfortable as possible.
My heart goes out to you and yours. My family and I are in similiar situation as we were told earlier this week that our Mum has advanced bowel cancer.
My advice is to listen to what your Dad wants. He'll know what he wants to make him feel comfortable. See if there are any chores or errands you can do to make life easier for your Dad or other members of the family. My sister is taking on the care of our Mum when she comes home tomorrow, and as there isn't a lot for me to do for my Mum, I can support my sister best I can. It's times like these that you really need to rely on each other. Actions speak louder than words, and words are always hard to come by in such hard situations.
Don;t forget to take of yourself too. I've found that writing stuff down or talking about it with my family has helped to at least get over the shock. This forum has also been a big help and there are lots of lovely people who understand and are willing to listen and share.
So sorry to hear about your Dad. Understandably you are shocked and scared at the moment and I'm sure that many of our members here will be able to identify with those feelings.
We do have a team of nurses that you can call and I wonder if it might be helpful for you to have a chat with one of them. You can call them free from a UK landline on 0808 800 4040. They are available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm.
Hi Ny,
Thank you for your response,really sorry to read your news about your mum.
It's just so so sad to hear about the amount of people with cancer.
We are going tomorrow to meet the cancer team,to find out as much as we can,what we should expect, and what we can do to try and make dad comfortable.
I have now written a long list of questions to ask!
It's just so hard isn't it,I don't want to leave him,just in case anything happens.
But I do feel better for being able to talk to others.
Thank you.xx
Thank you Jenn,
We are meeting with the Cancer Team tomorrow,so have lots of questions to ask them. It's great to know that there is people with you that we can talk to.
Thank you for responding to me.x
Fly.
I have also been told recently that my Dad has stage 4 lung cancer and that it is terminal. Since he has found out (2 weeks now) he has gained a new focus and fight and is convinced it will not beat him, although all of the proffesionals have told him that it cannot be cured and is terminal. I agree with Ny in letting your dad make his own choices on what he wants. My father is extremely stubborn and has always done what he thinks best regardless of other peoples opinions! And I love him for it. Stay positive and try and keep you dad the same way. Keep laughing with him and keep your spirits up if possible. Believe it or not it seems to make things more bearable.
My mom has terminal lung cancer as well. We were told she has 3 to 6 months. I feel so sad and lost. It seems like all the money spent on chemo and radiation is not worth it. My uncle had a stem cell transplant and his 100% cancer free. I've researched immunonology as well. They fight the cancer while they focus on restoring the immune system. So many positive results for terminal cancer patients. My mother is not showing any emotion. We are all in shock. My dad died of bowl cancer 14 years ago. The only comfort I am feeling is she will see my father again!
bless you i am in the same situation my dad has terminal lung cancer and its been the worst time of my life watching him suffer its so very hard i would like to talk to someone in the same situation
I'm really sorry to read your news about your dad,I do know what to say as my dad just passed away last week. We was told he only had 3months to a year,but only lived for 1 month. Make the most of your time with your dad,tell him how much you love him and do all you possibly can.sorry but if you want to chat more then keep in touch.xx
Really sorry I have not been in touch,my dad passed away and I've been so busy,so sorry for your news it's such a cruel disease. Make the most of the time with your mum,it's so precious.
My heart goes out to you and your family. My mom is declining with terminal lung cancer. She had a bone scan last week. I think the doctors believe it's in her bones by the weight loss and pain. My mom has always been so active. I cry several times a day. I am strong while I'm with her but I'm having panic attacks and depression. I can't imagine my life without her. I try to see her a couple times per week. She is turning 76 March 30th. Is your mother still alive. I know how you feel. The best way I can describe it is feeling helpless. My emotions are all over the place. One minute I'm angry at the world and the docs for not doing enough to help her. I feel like the pharmaceutical companies don't want there to be a cure for cancer. I feel like I want
