We have just been told that my dad has advanced lung cancer and there is nothing that they can do!
We are so schocked and scared.
Would just like some advice and the best way to keep him as comfortable as possible.
hi my heart goes out to you also i feel the same like i want to stop time its my dad and its his 70th birthday today its been a terrible time for us at first they gave my dad hope by saying he could have treatment they then changed there mind because of his heart and from that moment it was terrible having no hope i dont think the doctors have done enough for hiim and seeing him suffer loosing so much weight and everything else that goes with lung cancer what a terrible terrible disease i feel so useless cant stop crying and so depressed
Thank you for your kind message. I really can't tell you how sad I feel,just the same as you all thinking about WHY cant they find a cure.
The only thing is my dad is at rest now and in no more pain,it really was so cruel at the end. My mum is still with me,so I have to keep going for her. People are very kind with there words,cards,flowers ect,but then there is some who are obsessed with knowing when are you going back to work?!!!
Sending you all my love and keep strong,tell them every minute how much you love them,time is so precious.xx
My husband died of lung cancer. Because he'd never smoked & played golf a lot it took doctors six months to diagnose it by which time it had spread to other organs.. First thing I would say is if the cancer is terminal don't go the chemo route. It may buy you a couple of months, which it did in Ian's case but it's so toxic, with horrendous side effects, mouth ulcers, chest infections & after two months the cancer got worse anyway. My husband was very scared of dying & withdrew into himself. As he lost his looks he didn't want to see anyone, but the brave people who came to see him & invoked his wrath did him a power of good. In retrospect I would suggest constant stream of visitors to keep him entertained & support. That's the most important thing & all you can do. Cancer is terrifying & that add saying 'cancer, we're coming to get you' is ridiculous, we are helpless.. The end is very peaceful & is almost a relief to see the suffering end.
i agree that ad is ridiculous were coming to get you i keep thinking all that money spent on cancer research and they still havent got a cure it makes me so very sad my dad is the same as gone so thin its destroying me seeing him like that take care xxxxxxx
hello I am so sorry to hear your news . My dad died this afternoon from lung cancer that had spread to his bones and then his liver , he was at work beginning of October he just had a bad back , we are in total shock n I haven't taken it in that he has cancer yet let alone that he has now gone , it's been a rough ride as he's had not one single bit of quality . He was confused and just wanted to be home , he ended up getting a lot of infections but came out of hospital Thursday . I'm unsure as to what advice to give you , it's so hard when one min your told one time scale and the next your told something else , spend as much time as you possibly can supporting him I know that goes without saying but he needs you so much . My dad was so so brace n was pulled about so much , in very angry at this disease I hope for the best for you xxx
Im so sorry for your loss,it's such a horrible cruel disease!
i think you have missed some of my messages,my dad only was with us a month after being diagnosed. Then my mum was diagnosed four months after dad passed away,she then passed away two months after being diagnosed!
so I honestly know how empty you will be feeling and angry.
