MY WIFE DIED 2 MONTHS AGO FROM OESOPHAGUS CANCER

Hi, I'm finding life a little difficult at the moment, my darling wife died in hospital in January we had been married for 40 years. The cancer had been a long journey 16 months of fighting this horrible disease from having stomach pegs fitted twice as the wrong size was inserted through to multiple endoscopy tests and Chimo. My daughter and myself were with her in hospital  for the last 18 hours off her life and witnesed her very trumatic death. After 2 months i miss her dreadfully and her last moments are everyday on my brain, crying is  an  everyday thing and i feel we have a double whammy as the restrictions due to the Coronavirus mean i don't see anyone. My daughter her husband and my 2 grand daughters live 40 miles away so we only talk over the phone. I do hope life may get better after the restrictions are lifted i will always love my darling wife and hopefully i can remember the good times we had  at sometime in the future rather the continues grief i'm suffering at the moment.

x

 

  • HI, So glad to hear from you as i know exactly what you going through. My wife was in and out of hospital for 18 months for chemo and infections she had stage 4 oesophagus cancer which we knew was not operable and palitive care was all they could offer. I do hope that your dear wife gets home this week it should be a great comfort for you. You must try to be strong in front of her as i was to my wife but i like you needed to cry my eyes out in private ond punch pillows to let out my anger at the position we where in. Do not be afraid off letting your emotions out, to me it's a sign of a real man. You and your dear wife have a long road ahead of you with many up and downs but please god you will get through it and i know you will not mess things up,.like me you sound like  a decent wife loving man.

    Will be thinking of you both

     

  • I think the thanks are mine to give to you.

    I used to tell my kids "It's never as bad as it first seems" and we will have time together and once this virus has gone maybe days out in the car and hopefully happy times.

    I wish you well and there is a guy here in Italy keeping you in mind!