Hi Amy 

I'm so sorry for your loss of your lovely dad

My mum went in to hospital 2 weeks ago for distended tummy and was told it was a blockage after  a ct scan she was told she had cancer of the stomach linning and her tummy was full of ascites fluid she went from walking in full of health apart from discomfort and tummy swollen to not being able to walk 3 days in and now they tell me theres no treatment and she has weeks to live she has drain in her side and down her throat  constantly draining fluid as nothing passes through and I'm completely confused and broken she's going through all this alone  because of the virus she tells me she's not in pain just discomfort  and we feel so helpless just want her home were awaiting a care package and bed so she can come home but I'm so worried she wont make it cancer is so cruel and taking her so quickly its unreal .

Hi Clairemarie,

I'm so deeply sorry to hear what your mum is going through.

Thankfully your mums pain is under control. Cancer can be very painful for some, as it was for my dad. He would get horrific pain in his left shoulder and arm due to the cancer spreading to his spine, and terrible pain in his abdomen, back and pelvis. However once the pain relief was under control it was much easier for him.

Do you have support in your household? And are you able to communicate with your mum via phone, text etc well under the current circumstances? I cant imagine what it's like not being able to sit with her. Keep in contact with the ward and nurses for updates. 

Thank you for messaging me. Sending you, your mum and family strength and healing.

Amy xx

Hi Plebbs,

Sorry for for only reading your message now.

I'm deeply sorry to hear about your husband.

How are you all coping?

I feel a part of me is missing xxx

[@Debbie51]‍ how do you cope. My father in law (of 17 years), has been told he has pancreatic cancer that is inoperable and aggressive, and cannot be treated. He is in so much pain and was seemingly fit and well 6 weeks ago.  I don't know what to do for my wife and children, they are all very close.  We don't know how long we have, it is tough.