I'm so sorry for loss it's such early days yet I promise you it will get better give yourselves time to grieve everything your feeling is complete normal follow those feelings and do what you feel is right for you and your girls think about getting pendants maybe with his fingerprint that helped me tremendous he's always with me now or a memory box when you feel ready your hearts will heal in time and you will  have the special memories of the good times without this horrible pain my heart goes out to you all x

Thankyou so much for your kind words!

im going to see him in the chapel of rest next week. Do you think they would let me take his fingerprint or do it for me?

x

I'm so sorry for your loss

I have no words of comfort but I am thinking of you and your children

Andrea xx

They should advise you how to go about it mine was from my dad so my Mum got them for her my sister and me it will be a forever keepsake for both you and your beautiful children I'm so proud to hear they have been so helpful to you I've been thinking about you all day since I have read your post the pain can be unbearable I lost my dad 3months ago he was my absolute hero so I know how your girls as re feeling you are allowed to get not only fingerprints but hair as well maybe even both!!! He will ALWAYS be apart of your life through your children ad they grow he will be with you in spirit always it is early days yet the pain will get better and special memories will start to begin.                       The chapel will do it for you and will send it off I will confirm that for you and let you know take care til then x

Hi, so sorry to hear what he happened, I am going thru similar, we have two girls 8 and 12 and have just been told my husband (44) only has a few weeks left.... he was diagnosed in April with oesophagus cancer metasized to liver, now it's in lung and stomach, his stomach is so swollen with fluid. I still cant believe this is happening to us, and don't know how I am going to live without him...really feeling your pain.... xx

Oh I am so so sorry! Is he at home or are hospice? Have you had counselling?

it all happened very quick for us too. I'm not going to lie the pain I have I'm not sure how it heals to be able to go on living as a trio. 
especially when they are your world. Everyday living, birthdays, other celebrations, holidays. 
I keep thinking I don't want to be sat there on my own when we would normally holding hands looking at the girls playing. 
here if you need anything. If you want my number please ask x

Have just asked my mum about the fingerprints lockets she told me you need to ask your funeral director they will get them done for you you can get as many as you wanted eve in the future hope that they bring you the comfort they brought us he will always be within your hearts evrrytime you mention him to another person his memory will be alive god bless you all 

Hi Redcherry

I know exactly how you feel I also when I cry get that feeling of not being able to breath so it’s quite normal but you have got to look after yourself. It does get easier to come to terms with but still don’t understand like you ‘why us such a great family with close bond) I lost my husband last September to aggressive lung cancer which happened over months. He was a fit health 54yr old man we had been together 26yrs with two amazing children one now 16 and the other 19 in which he had just started uni a week after his dad passed away. It’s tough but you will find the strength.  Take each day as it comes and enjoy your children . X

Words can't explain how much my heart goes out to both you and your children I hope that you have the support that you need life is cruel but I promise you you're stronger than you believe and you will cope lean on friends and family and remember you're never alone thinking about you

I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved husband.  Your parents are your rock, they will look after you and the girls, when despair overcomes you. When you feel that you cannot cope with everyday life your parents wll take care of things, whatever it takes. I know from experience, if you are blessed, parents are a safe harbour in a storm.  Everything you say in your post makes sense, but the best place for now is where you are. 

Lyn xxx