Hi, yes I agree with you, somewhere deep in my heart I feel that it was her time to go and although those hours prior were horrendous and will stay with me forever I am glad it wasn't weeks or months she was unwell for. I am glad I 'met' you Cheryl, I think I've shared with you more in these few chats than I have shared with anyone else. I hope we can keep in touch through our journey and one day we both find some peace.

Lisa x

I feel your pain xxxx

Hi lisa,

Absolutely. My partner thinks I'm mad sounding time on these forums (I also read sue ryder coping with bereavement forum) but I have found it so comforting to find people who have lost their mum recently.

I'm just about to meet an old friend for coffee. I will get the useful if there is anything I can do, must be awful etc etc but both her parents are very much alive, happy and healthy.

Keep talking to me and sharing your journey.

Cheryl x

Hi, I've just come across your post. And wondered how you was coping? I lost my mum in Nov and can so identify with your words. I too miss my mum so much and im finding it hard to adapt to life without her. I hope you are doing ok x

Hi,

I’m still not coping well. I cry every day and miss her more and more. I don’t think it’ll ever change for me. I hope you are ok. Thanks for asking x

Hi beaut,

How are you doing 3 months further on?

I'm still struggling alot. The weeks and months are passing and I'm getting further away from my mum.

I am back at work full time and am grateful for this as my working days are much more bearable than my days off where I cry alot still.

Cheryl 

Hi Cheryl

things are still very difficult and like you I still Cry most days. I really struggled at New year, I felt as if I was leaving her in 2019 and I felt very guilty about that. I am still off work at the moment but I am in negotiations with my manager about returning and I think that will be in a couple of weeks time. I am feeling positive about returning to work as I do feel ready now. Although it is nearly six months since mum passed it still only seems like yesterday and missing her very essence has increased.  I have had many counselling sessions to try to help me come to terms with the actual events of that night and I can at least talk about it now. I still cannot however imagine the future without her yet. I am totally changed as a person, my heart has hardened and I  can be spiteful and selfish with those closest to me, that is something I am going to work on this year. I truly hope that you start to feel better soon Cheryl, take comfort that you are not alone. 
 

Lisa

Hi lisa 

I know what you mean. Its almost 7 months for me and I know mum has gone and I'm dealing with her absence one day at a time, but I'm not prepared to accept its forever.

I think I wont see her today but maybe tomorrow?

My brain is not ready to accept this really happened.

Particularly as our mums were fine right up to their deaths. Of course I wouldn't have wanted mum to have suffered for months but I may at least have prepared for such an event. When they are living normally you think you've got them for years.

Nice to hear from you x

Hello,

i just wanted to reach out as I don’t know what to do anymore.. my mum has only a few months to live. She is my best friend and I love her so much. I share everything with her and talk to her everyday. 

I live in the UK and she lives abroad. With Covid, I am unable to travel to see her. It’s already been 2 months since I last saw her. I have a one year old. My mum was diagnosed with cancer when my baby was just a few weeks. I’ve tried to spend as much time as I could with her until the lockdown. I’m tormented as I want to fly to see her as soon as the lock down is over, but I can’t risk catching Covid and infecting her/me/my son...

its like a nightmare. I can’t accept the fact that I can’t spend time with her in her last months... the thought of her passing is just unbearable. I don’t know if I will be strong enough to go through this. She is everything to me.

Hi lilyuk,

I'm sorry to see that your mum doesnt have long left to live. It's a truly awful situation. Speak to her as much as you can and say the things you want to. I didn't  know my mum was going to die. I didnt even know she was ill so I didnt get to say my goodbyes, talk about last things, etc.

When the time comes you will get through this. Its nearly 11 months for me and I am still not coping well but I am learning to very slowly live without her.

You have a child to throw your love into. My daughter keeps me going. Without her I would have given up.

Thinking of you.

Cheryl