Hello SimbaSarah,

I'm sorry to hear about your mum's stituation.

Hopefully others who have gone through a similar experienced with their loved ones with cancer will soon come along with words of advice to offer you but in the meantime I thought you may be interested in reading this page we have on family, friends and caregivers.

I hope this can help a bit until you have a chance to speak to others here.

Wishing you and your mum the very best,

Renata, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi Simba Sarah, I'm newly diagnosed with BC and find it amazing how exhausting it is. I think it is the shock and anxiety. I'm allowing myself lots of rest and quiet, I'm not giving up, just being realistic and conserving my strength. I'm gradually building up a support network, including this chat site, and finding that is helping to feel stronger and cope better. Hugs to you and your Mum.

Thank you Renata, I'll have a look at that page 

Hi VPlum, 

I'm sorry that your having to go through this and I really admire and encourage your positive outlook to get better and giving time to yourself. 

I know there are a lot of amazing and strong people going through it too on this forum so I hope you find the right support to help you on this cancer kicking journey , hugs and best wishes to you x

Hi simba

So sorry about your mother, and welcome to the forum, main thing is to pace yourself don't over do it, make sure you look after yourself as well as your mum, in our family I'm the one with C it's not curable, but I'm managing. & looking after a disabled wife as well,. Wife been disabled about ten years, I've had C over three, to start with it was chaos but we've got a routine now it's a lot easier, best wishes,

Billy 

P.s you can to it 

Hi Billy,

I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, I can't imagine how difficult it must be so I really admire the fact that your able to manage it and look after your wife aswell. I hope things do work out for you both. I've been using MacMillan for advice on how best to support my mum and my disabled brother. I'm also taking steps to establish a routine and taking time for myself even if it's a 5 minute meditation session, mums doing it too and it's really helping. Keep positive and take each day at a time. I've also been reading this book "kicking cancer in the kitchen" which is helping on the nutritional side of things.

I wish you and your wife all the best and pray for the best outcome for you both. 

Sarah x

Hi Simba Sarah, what a sweet person you are to be sending us messages of support, in response to ours to you. You seem to have a 'battle plan' taking shape; that's good! I agree small routines also help. But if or when you get battle-weary or anxious, post something on here and get a little bit of moral support. You are not alone. 

Hi Sarah thanks for replying sometimes you don't hear a response and you don't know if you've done something wrong, i might try that book, i now I'm eating wrong stuff. It could help I'm over weight, at least you've found some time off, is your mum on treatment yet, we all know it's not nice, best of luck in future, 

Billy

P.s if things get bad for me I've arranged for a carer, trouble is they want paying to look after wife, if it was me it would be free. ( cancer nurse) mad isn't it,. 

That's very kind of you thank you. I'm happy to help support anyone that's going through this as I know it can feel isolating. I'm working on a strategy as I've realised that this is a journey so I have to be in the best place for it. Here if you need a chat x

Hi Billy,

I know that it isn't easy but this diagnosis for mum has made us re-evaluate our diet and lifestyle choices and now we're making big changes to both. I've been reading about nutrition a lot and now make green juices every morning from organic veggies such as kale, spinach, beets, green apples and carrots. Also taking vitamin supplements and cutting out gluten, high processed fats and meats and no sugar. We had to get the supplements checked by the hospital pharmacist as some would conflict with the chemo drugs so had to leave them out. 

Also green tea is great at fighting cancer. Meditating and reducing stress where possible helps heaps. Life is still crazy busy but planning the day as best as you can helps keep you focused.

With regards to care for your wife, it may be worth speaking to citizens advice as they may be able to help and sign post you to services for cost effective care or hopefully free care. 

If you have close family or friends who can help even if it's just doing the shopping then it all adds up.