I keep feeling anxious and guilty

My husband actually looks pretty well although he has lost a lot of weight, he has terminal bowel cancer and secondary liver cancer. He keeps saying he si worried about me and I cannot help falling about crying, I ahve made an appointment for the doctors for Thursday but feel guilty for being unwell when my husband is dying. I love this man so much, he is my best friend as well as my soul mate and husband. I dont want him to leave me, I am so distraught over this whole thing. Do other people feel this way? He was given 6-12 months last march and we are now 10 months on and this is making me more and more anxious, please advise me, plus how do I get him to tell mw what he wants for his funeral?

Parents
  • Hi germic sorry to hear about your husbands situation. It is very sad and very hard on you. With regard to feeling guilty I feel very guilty following my husbands death in January bye was 69. I had spent  the previous year going on about getting to 70 being my goal. I had breast cancer three years ago so was talking about me. I worry now that I tempted fate only my poor husband died. He died after three weeks in hospital following a short illness. Regards. 

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  • Hi germic sorry to hear about your husbands situation. It is very sad and very hard on you. With regard to feeling guilty I feel very guilty following my husbands death in January bye was 69. I had spent  the previous year going on about getting to 70 being my goal. I had breast cancer three years ago so was talking about me. I worry now that I tempted fate only my poor husband died. He died after three weeks in hospital following a short illness. Regards. 

Children
  • Oh Wilan, how sad to hear about your husband. I will admit it can somedays be very hard as he complains and gets shirty about nothing. But I have now learnt to bite my lip and walk away to find something else to do, you should see under my kitchen sink, its spotless lol xx