I keep feeling anxious and guilty

My husband actually looks pretty well although he has lost a lot of weight, he has terminal bowel cancer and secondary liver cancer. He keeps saying he si worried about me and I cannot help falling about crying, I ahve made an appointment for the doctors for Thursday but feel guilty for being unwell when my husband is dying. I love this man so much, he is my best friend as well as my soul mate and husband. I dont want him to leave me, I am so distraught over this whole thing. Do other people feel this way? He was given 6-12 months last march and we are now 10 months on and this is making me more and more anxious, please advise me, plus how do I get him to tell mw what he wants for his funeral?

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  • Hi there, I'm really sorry your husband is unwell. It's a horrible place to be and I was like you an emotional mess. You can't help where your mind takes you at times. It must be horrible thinking of that deadline you've been given, push that to the side it's just a statistic and can go either way. Live for the moment, we're all dying unfortunately but some sooner than others. Maybe he could write down any funeral wishes and put it in an envelope then you needn't talk about it, it will be there when the time comes. Go and spend time with your husband and enjoy his company even if just sitting holding hands says a lot without words. Take care of yourselves x

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  • Hi there, I'm really sorry your husband is unwell. It's a horrible place to be and I was like you an emotional mess. You can't help where your mind takes you at times. It must be horrible thinking of that deadline you've been given, push that to the side it's just a statistic and can go either way. Live for the moment, we're all dying unfortunately but some sooner than others. Maybe he could write down any funeral wishes and put it in an envelope then you needn't talk about it, it will be there when the time comes. Go and spend time with your husband and enjoy his company even if just sitting holding hands says a lot without words. Take care of yourselves x

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