You're already smashing it by loving your mum so much and caring for her.  You can feel that love in your post and your mum will be so comforted by that. This part could possibly go on longer than you imagine - but the fact she has you in her life to be there, support and love her is so very precious.

The times ahead are going to be incrediblly tough without a doubt.  You say it's just you and your mum but do you have any friends or relatives that can support you Honeybunny?  My 67 year old friend passed away from breast cancer on Boxing Day leaving 19 and 22 year old sons.  I'm in the background if they need me.

it's important that you have someone to lean on.  It would be worth talking to your mum's medical team to ask about a support group and it's brilliant you've come here to reach out too.

Roughly where are you based in the country?

sending positive thoughts your way and I'm so sorry your mum and you are going through this x

Hello,

I just wanted to send you a huge virtual hug. I am so very sorry to read about your Mum.

I am in a similar boat in that my partner has been diagnosed with stage 4 bowel cancer so not curable, 2 weeeks ago and I have been struggling to cope as we now won't have our future together.(heis 41) My friends and family have been an amazing support and I hope you have a good support network too- don't be afraid to lean on them for support- you would do the same for them.

You just being with your Mum is supporting her. 

I'm sorry I cannot help much but I just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts.

xxxxxxx

Hunnybunny99 I'm in the same suitation as you it's just me and my mum. My dad passed away 19 years ago. As someone that knows and feels your every thought, fear, anxiety I'm just sorry that you have to go through this. Your already doing more than you think you are to support your mum and love alone is exactly what she needs right now. As someone with no support network I'm doing it all on my own. I hope that you have reliable friends and people who can surround and help you. 

That keeping all the emotions built up inside and then releasing when your on your own is the lonliest place to ever be. Speak to someone you trust If you can. Or you can speak to me. I find sometimes speaking to strangers can be easier. Not everyone understands when you haven't been through it. 

Sending you much love, support and prayers to you and your mum xx 

Hi 

I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum. How is she doing? And how are you? 

I lost Mum to TNBC this past Dec and it is undeniably the toughest time of my life (I am older). You are doing a wonderful job being with her - I think our presence means a lot to our mothers and I think mine could sense me even in her last hours when semi-conscious. 

As others are said, you have to take each day by itself - or even hour to hour. It can be overwhelming. 

Do you have any relatives or friends who can visit or help a bit? Sometimes a very short break or some support is incredibly helpful. I'm single only child but a couple of friends visiting even if for an hour helped. Also may be nice for your Mum to see others if she is up to it - Mum appreciated the visits and we tried to have some levity. 

Nothing will take away the stress and pain but do try to say all the things you want to. Between the back and forth from hospital, and taking care of Dad who has dementia and wfh, I got a bit too task focused (probably a survival method) but wish I tried to enjoy the present moment and just chat even if about silly things more at the end. I did tell her I loved her so much a few days before she passed and in a lucid moment she told me she loved me more - which remains a treasured memory. Please do say all the things you want. I wish i'd ask for recipes or life advice or let her talk more about her childhood memories when focussed on getting her to sleep. But from your message, I think you are doing the best job. Take care of yourself and happy to talk x 

Hi 

On Friday my mum was diagnosed with cancer. It's not curable and we have been told she will be coming home in a few days and we need to make her comfortable. 

I'm only 15. My mum is only 56. She is my best friend I can't live without her. 

When I read your post I felt less alone.

I'm so sorry your going through this.

I see adverts about cancer but you never expect it to happen to you at all. 

Your doing amazing and I hope you and your family are okay and I'm always here x

-Freya x

To all you beautiful ladies 

I had Brast cancer last year 

I feel what you are going through big hugs to you all and your mums please stay here for support we are all here to chat or help x 

love Lara 

How is your mum now ? 
How are you ? 
sending love and hugs ️

Freya 

sprry of what you are going through 

god bless you all I hope you get some help from your family and friends 

love Lara big hugs ️

You are indeed a wonderful daughter and doing absolutely the best thing you can do with your Mum now. I am 63 and just received first warning of a very bad prognosis. My biggest fear is not being with my kids and grandkids as they go through the young family stage. I have total respect that you are doing so much for your Mum both mentally and physically when she needs it the most. 

I know it is a hard topic to come to, but when it comes my time, I would like my daughter to write down my practical advise for bringing up kids to make it easier. For example how to hold a baby while cooking tea, what home made meals to make them, how to teach them to talk, favourite fun games. A chapter for each phase. That way she knows you are there with her through every step of being a mother. It will be a notebook you will both treasure. Much love.

Firstly, I  just want to send you big loves. I felt I had to comment as I feel the love you have for your mum in your words ️ I found this forum helped me loads when I was going through it with my beautiful mum. As I write, I am not telling you how to be or what to do, but I will tell you my experience, sometimes it's helps to see how others deal with things. I same as you, held back all the tears in front of her, and tried to stay as positive as I could for her sake, I wanted her to be at peace with what was ahead, it was tough, and the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but it was my mums last months and I wanted to do what was best for her. I cared for her and did everything I possibly could. My mum was my best friend also, and the final months together was our time, and I spent all my time with her. I kind of got it into to my head, this is about mum now, it's not about me, I can concentrate on me when the time comes. I am not a talker, that's why I found this forum helpful, luckily I also had my best friend who had been in the same situation, make sure you have some support to help you through. It is going to be a tough time, but you will get through it, your strength will come. Concentrate on making memories with your beautiful mum and spend as much time as possible with her. I am always here to chat if you wish, I'm so so sorry that you are going through this, sending you and your beautiful mum big hugs and lots of love xxx