Why my sister

My lovely older by 18 month sister was diagnosed in March 2022 of breast cancer spread in to the lymph notes and then 3 months later to the bones, she has had on going treatment of hormone stoppers and start her chemo tablets at the end of October 2022 and had an advires reaction ending up in hospital at the begin December for two weeks, where we found out it is in the liver she 41 and at the moment so swollen from now needing a permanent drain for it as well as having her first round of iv chemo, the oncologist has said to start perparing for the worst, she has an amazing husband and so do I but I am just so scared for her to lovely boys 8 and 12  I have also my son who is 12, it's hard enjoy for an adult to deal with death how do children of there mother. Just why so young why my sister it feels like part of me is now broken and I can't do anything seeing her scared but so brave and a strength for her boys and us as a family.

  • Oh Cassie,

    I am so sorry that the end came faster than you had hoped, but it sounds like as a family you all got to be close to her at the end.  It is also great that she was in a good hospice and kept comfortable.

    Be kind to yourselves and just take one day at a time, just remember how much your sister loved you and how you helped give her the strength to make her final journey.

    My thoughts are with you.

    Marie xx

  • Oh Cassie,

    I'm so sorry for the loss of your sister, it sounds like you made her last few weeks as good as they could be and I'm so glad that you and your mum were able to be with her when she passed and that it was peaceful. Your sister sounds like she was an amazing woman and her strength will help get you all through the very tough times ahead. I'm so glad she was in a hospice, the children and anyone else who needs it will be so supported with counseling, and some hospices have young people's groups which can really help children to talk to others of a similar age that are going through the same thing. 

    Try and take time for yourself to grieve, some days will be easier than others, and then it hits you again. Lean on those close to you and don't feel you have to be strong for everyone else as you sometimes that shared emotion makes it easier for others to talk about what they feel. 

    Thinking of you all ,

    Charity