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Stu,

I am so sorry that you have had to come on here but glad that you have found us...we will give you all the support that words can provide so please use this forum to rant, rave, ask for advice or just to chat.

As far as the question is concerned, no one can for definate tell you what will happen and exactly when...however quite usually when people are in the last stages of cancer they are dosed with so much Morphine or other pain relief drugs that all is very quiet and peaceful. The hospice and/or doctors will do all they can to ensure your dad is not in pain.

Please come back when you are ready and let us know how things are.

Kindest Regards

Tony

Hi Stujnr

Welcome to Cancer Chat. With great people such as Dizzie and TonySong offering their support, you won't be facing this on your own. In terms of being prepared, here is a link to our CancerHelp UK page about dying with cancer.

Best wishes to you and your dad,

Jane

Hi Stu,

Was just wondering how your doing, I know you'll have so much going on at the moment, but whenever you feel up to it please drop us a line.

I wish I could make things easier for you but truth is........the more we love someone.....the more our hearts break, This life is so cruel at times!!

My private messaging is enabled if you want to talk in private, i'm very broad minded and nothing you say will offened me, if you feel like ranting and raving,

Take care Stu

Lynn x

Hi Stu,

My dad has terminal cancer too, I'm hoping I have a few months with him yet, although he is too deterioating quite quick.

I am also terrified about loosing him, what makes it harder is that I am loosing my mum too.

Every second I am with them I seem to have another memory to add to my memory head bank, it seems to get me through and feel proud and prividged that they are both my parents. 33 years of having my wonderful parents is better then 80 years of having parents that don't give a damb.

I am going through so many mixed emotions at the minute Stu, anger, love, terrified, laughter, you name it I'm having them.

I hope my dad will go peacefully. He told me the other day how proud he was of me, I had to walk away and had a cry on the loo of all places.

Early December I had an heart attack myself, I don't know whether it is due to the stress of everything or what so i've started swimming. It may sound silly but this really helps me. While I'm swimming I can take my frustration out on those laps, one after the other. I feel more possitive once I've had a swim, then go straight to mum and dads for a coffee. My swimming hair never fails to make mum and dad laugh, I try to have a different style everytime I go lol.

Take care Stu, you arev not on your own. A massive cyber hug to you and your family and remember that memory bank!

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Dear Stu,

I'm so sorry to read that your Dad has passed away.

On behalf of everyone here at Cancer Chat, please accept my sincere condolences.

I'm please to read that he was surrounded by family and friends.

Best wishes to you and your family,

Renata

Cancer Chat Moderator