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I would like some advice on people's experiences with chemotherapy. I think it's hard to decide whether to have chemotherapy when there is no cure for you. Has anyone found it beneficial? If so, how?
You pose a difficult question for me because your'e writing in Cancer Chat's 'Dying with Cancer' section, and you'll have a fair idea of what chemo's side - effects are from reading this and other cancer sites. Your question 'is it worth having chemo?' then is answerable by you and your mother.
I mean by this, that she needs to make a choice against physical life (and possibly prolonging it) and quality of life.
I know that she's probably been whisked from treatment to treatment for cancer, with a poor outcome at the end of all that. I know too how tired she must be with it all.
However, there are people with end - stage cancer who'll do anything to prolong their lives. Just as there are people with the same condition who choose not to be treated to delay what might be inevitable. Whatever a person chooses is where their quality of life lays, either taking treatment to extend their lives or refusing them.
So I cannot tell you what you ask, except to ask you that she not be pursueded by what others want, and make life as acceptable to her as possible. Having said that, I would also ask that she doesn't push people away in order to maintain her resolve in whatever choice she makes.
I realise that for you this must be a horrible question to have to ask, but I'm glad you did.
I'm thinking of you both. Keep in touch.
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I was given 12 months to live in May 09. So I should really be on my way to the pearlies in about 12 weeks !! yeah, whatever !!
My point is, if I hadn't had chemo last May, i'd be there already.
If you have any more questions, drop me a line.